Dude Said, "Black Girls Are Easy"

Warning: this note contains graphic material as it is in response to another post.
This blog is my perspective on another blog and mentality I ran across :http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fblackgirlsareeasy.blogspot.com%2F2011%2F03%2Fare-you-wifey-or-are-you-pussy.html%3Fspref%3Dfb&h=38cc2
Now my first problem with this post is, this black man singled out BLACK women for being easy not just women, or some women of every race/culture or creed..... but Black women. *Blank Stare* Then it's the down grading of sisters under the guise that he is in fact trying to uplift and educate them about the way BLACK MEN DOWN PLAY BLACK women. I've seen "easy and gullable women with poor self worth in all colors and flavors, secondly, I KNOW women in all colors who are everything HE claims is an ideal wifey but only wanna be "pussy" to a brother like him, cuz he's not hubby material to HER. You see, everybody is just "dick or pussy" to somebody and nobody wants to just be "dick or pussy' all the time to anybody. Nobody can determine but each and every individual somebody who will wife who and who wouldn't. The responses to his article is proof of that. It's just like the same brother can be a dog to one woman and a complete gentleman and treating another like a Queen, the same woman can act like she's just pussy to one man and be all down with another man . I quote him on,"Are you the type he wifes or are you just "pussy?" See this is a doubled edged sword my brothers, you can only get away with this self sufficient, self educated bullshit with a certain type of woman too .



Now don't get me wrong, I agree we set the stage for how we are treated and that we have half the responsibility on the outcome based on the income(Brains, worth and experience intuitively to know the signs that ur time is being wasted if u think a brother is goin to invest in u seriously). Now dude is saying if a sister is boring and unintelligible, can't hold a decent conversation cuz she's doesn't know shit and just not an interesting person, she is just ass and she has no other purpose but to get a man off. He just going to do drive bys, he's not gonna spend any quality time with her. Then dude goes further to remind us these are not just "hoes" he's speaking of but "girlfriends" status. Women they might even have children with and will be seen in public with but their families and loved ones don't know this woman cuz she's just "pussy". I ask you then, what REAL benefits does "wifey" have on pussy? 99% of the time, he don't even want wifey's pussy but definitely has some pussy on the side. Trust when I tell you, a brother that agrees with this mentality is keeping and constantly looking for any other pussy in addition to wifey's. It's the whole reason he needs to classify women into the two compartments cuz he needs to justify his greed, selfishness and egotistical bullshit. It don't have a damn thing to do with her being , smart enough, interesting enough to keep his mind stimulated cuz even then he will still try to LABEL her "pussy" if that's all he WANTS her to be to HIM.





Wifey who agrees with this menatlity or women who feel they're wifey material and bout to get wifed, believing the hype that even if her man keeps pussy on the side she is somehow above this woman. HOW?! Bcuz he comes home to you every night? Bcuz U wear his ring and his last name? Bcuz he's with u and the kids on Sunday? Cuz he keeps food on the table and the bills paid? First of all, he's not being faithful to YOU, he's dishonoring his vows to you. Gives u some spending Money? Pussy is with him more,he more than likely spending money with and on her too unless she got a man too and he's just her play thing as well. Then some of you dudes swear up and down a woman is just pussy to you but u worry about who else she spending time with when it's ur wife u should be watching.U will go home and cuss your wife out cuz pussy is under your skin and got you fucked up and give wifey some "rude boy" cuz pussy is on ur mind. U can't wait to see pussy, even if you aint met pussy yet,LOL. The mission itself is what ur in love with cuz it's NOT wifey and it's for this very reason a lot of women don't want you for anything but dick and pities wifey. She can have everything wifey can have and not be tied to your ass legally. She can walk away just like u can. Then wifey walks too, when she realizes there is no real value in being your wife. U love her? really? That's why U have pussy in waiting, cuz even though wifey don't have to have bomb pussy she smart and so interesting that is all you need to keep yo ass home and be happy and faithful.



That's some bullshit too, That's why Shaq left his wife of many years and kids for Hoops "pussy" ass?! Pussy don't matter itself? LOL,okay, this is where I say men proudly marry pussy all the time. Some women are still single cuz they waiting on a man to tell them he in love with their brains and NOT their pussy or both. be careful fellas , cuz most of the time you play yourselves trying to play these women. All you're really doing is labeling her so u don't have to feel guilty for how you use her, but sooner or later and the longer u use her u gonnna feel her and that's when she gon leave you for good. learn to be content even if you can't satisfy ur insatiable inner hoe that you have a woman with brains and personality, a heart, loyalty and good pussy or you could end up with nothing but pussy and life is just booty for you. The bottom line is... wifey or not, if u play with pussy you get fucked(in more than one way)!!!



Final thought:

Ladies? A man in your life that truly cares about U(or want u to think he does for whatever reason) will tell you you have the power, ur pussy. You have to know when to give it and when to take it. If u give it even after a certain time frame has passed and he was good til he got it then started acting a fool on you. that's not your fault he was gonna do that anyway cuz he never lost sight of the goal, to hit it and quit it. Just take ur shit back , learn from it n move on. Don't let him keep hittin it when it's CLEAR he don't want YOU. Everything is a gamble, who's to say he won't do abstinence with YOU a whole year(cuz he gettin it somewhere else) and still lose interest once he hit? he can know from the jump ur wifey material and still not wife u cuz he just wants the pussy on U. U CAN NOT CHANGE HIS MIND or heart,but you can change yours.

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The Catch and Release Syndrome

You ever watch men fish? The way they can wait quietly and patiently for hours for a bite? I've watched my Dad fish and the excitement on his face when he caught a big one is indescribable. Of course he'd have to take it home to show his boys saying stuff like " Would you look at this pretty motherfucker?!"Then he'd freeze it or scale it and fry it right away. Then there were times when they went together and they'd all catch one and admire it a few seconds and throw it back in. Thus is the same way subconciously or not (according to the comic here) they approach the pursuit of women. The chase and wait is more thrilling than the catch. Sometimes they need others to see what they've accomplished and sometimes nobody ever need know but them. During those catch and release sessions, I realized they even had compassion for their captive to set it free. Almost in a sense that they appreciated it's right to be free n happy and not feeling worthy or guilty. Rarely will a man do that with a woman though without taking something from her that she values first. I say we don't bite the bait, that we make them sweat and struggle to catch us, so that they will consume us with some pride and dignity and let us have ours too. "Nothing ventured , nothing gained" is the equivalent to "You don't appreciate a thing you didn't work hard for like a thing you did."

Criticizing True Parenting and Leadership

http://www.orlandosentinel.com/news/local/breakingnews/os-school-bus-dad-girl-released-20100923,0,4512697.story

So the link of above is that regarding a young lady with cerebral palsy who had been bullied by student on a Seminole County school bus. Before I get into my observations and perspective on this, I want to first say God Bless the family and welcome the girl home from the hospital in hopes that she will not be forever scarred by her ordeal and the fact that her father was punished for a heroic and fatherly act.

I posted an article awhile ago,about bullies and teasing and when it goes too far. I've read a lot of articles revolving around this particular story, that has caused many adults to relive their childhood nightmares of being bullied by mean kids. These kids are not just mean, they aren't properly reared and parented. Although a lot of bullies are also victims unbeknownst to us, it only and often epidemically spreads this tragic condition in life rather than impedes it.

James Jones is the father of this young girl who just started middle school and happens to be handicapped. His daughter was being bullied on the school bus to the subjection of having a condom unwrapped and placed on her head. How vulgar and disrespectful is that?! Mr. Jones reported that he had in fact spoke to school officials about what was happening to his child. They didn't do anything! He took matters into his own hands by boarding the bus to confront the students, cursing at them and threatening the boy who placed a condom on his daughter's head. He was arrested and his daughter continued to be bullied. The fact that authorities disciplined the man instead of the students proves why it continued. Why they didn't learn anything from their actions and the consequences therein. There weren't any consequences for them!

We as a society criticize parents and their ability to lead and supervise delinquent minded children with tough love (okay it wasn't tough love but anger but necessary and valid) when it's necessary. Yet officials show no competence in their ability to prevent such incidents from occurring. They encourage us to participate in our child's schools, to help lead the children, they often accuse parents of using them as babysitters and not being involved and invested in their children educational and learning environment. Contradictory and hypocrisy at it's best! I myself have had to deal with similar situations being a mother of three. When my son was in fifth grade, he was dragged in the girl's bathroom by four young ladies. When a teacher saw him exiting, she jumped to the conclusion that my son RAPED the girls?! WTF???!!! It went on his record where he was told it would be a permanent crime on his record for life. The girls did not hesitate to confess that they PULLED my son in the bathroom because they thought he was cute,(which would could have very well been classified as sexual harassment from such harsh judgment as the one exercised against my son) they were ignored. My son was heartbroken as was I. I was more furious which led me to fight for my son and I mean by any means necessary and literally if push came to shove. The next morning I was stopped at the school entrance and told the charges were removed. You think that satisfied me? Hell no, they were gonna hear from me still. They were gonna know that it was not acceptable to drag my son's good name through the dirt like that and not even for a split second! They thought because they decided to do the right thing however late it was okay to call my son a rapist and not even apologize to him. Sometimes the children involved will have a conscious and remorse for their actions and it's the PARENTS AND OFFICIALS who don't.The only apology we received was from the young ladies involved. "It's over, we have taken care of it", is all the staff had to say. So I said "Fuck you very much!" and thanked the girls, who deserved recognition for taking responsibility for their actions .

Fifteen years later, I'm experiencing the same with my nephew. Who has
reported to me on more than one occasion that his teachers observe him being attacked and threatened and do nothing until he feels forced to defend himself. They then only acknowledge him as the wrong doer and reprimand him. I will hear the teacher out and if she so much as stutters I serve her ass up on a platter. I would much rather deal with an adult than a child. Which brings me to my point. These "mofos"(officials) don't want to deal with the parents because they figure if the child is that unruly and out of control the parents are ten times worst and they are scared. They'd rather take a chance on YOU and your decent character and well behaved child because you will be easier to deal with right? WRONG!! Make no mistake that good character and manners makes me a punk and that I won't get "loco" to protect my children and their rights! Go Mr. Jones, they ought to be kissing your black ass, giving you the key to the damn city and asking you to jump on board that damn bus as security!

Show Me a Happy Atheist and I'll Show You At Least Twenty Miserable Ones

Woke up with this for some reason, it was like a message in a dream, that said, "Show me a happy Atheist and I'll show u 20 miserable ones". Let it be known here that I don't have a personal dislike for Atheist, Scientology or any other religion, non-religion on the face of the earth. Well Jehovah Witnesses maybe, not because of their belief but because of their "over- bearing/ gotta shove this down your throat attitudes". I have been associates with all kinds and enjoy different perspectives and views, however, I never let it affect my belief. I rarely even allow myself to get into debates with opposing faiths/religions but, Atheist was something I had to understand and learn about. I wanted to know how & why they came to not believe in God. Most of these people once upon a time had a religion, they weren't born into Atheism or raised on it.

Fascinated I was on their many philosophies and dare I say, even facts. So they can make a lot of sense why religion as they call it, is bullshit. Going back to Christianity's violent roots, a religion based on love and forgiveness. That the bible has been written many times over at the hands of man.I've drawn a conclusion that thought the truth sets you free, facts can't make u miserable. They get no argument from me on these points but to say God doesn't exist? In all your facts you have no peace with self or life, whereas I have peace with both and it's due to my faith in God. If it's been proven that God doesn't exist through science and that the universe is responsible for aligning things in my favor then it doesn't explain the spiritual connection I have with an omnipresence I call God that is ever present in my life. So my faith is based on what I can't see but know exists while the Atheist does not believe anything he cannot see or trust anything he cannot see.

I asked for proof there is no God, they asked for proof there was. I said he's right here(pointing at heart) I can feel him. They say, "I can't see him, You being a good person is your own doing and choice. I don't give God credit for that" So U don't have to believe in God to be a good person, but how can you be a good person when you're miserable? And why are you miserable? Why do you have heart and other health problems(not saying believers don't but not constantly being attacked to the death of them either)vengeance, grudges, thick hatred for at least three people since you were a kid and just a doubtful cynic full of gloom? And dig this, they blame God for all the problems in their life health issues, loss of love ones, bad luck and so forth, but he doesn't even exist? Yet any good that befalls on them is from that of the universe. How can this be? How can you hate so much and say just because you don't believe in God you're still a good person? God aside,where is your PEACE? Why has the universe failed you on just having peace in your life? Did you not stare at the stars long enough, or acknowledge that scent that rain was coming last week?

One Atheist in particular that I have really enjoyed is George Carlin. I have no shame that Carlin has entertained, intrigued and caused me to think with his work("It's Bad For Ya",You Are All Diseased","Brain Droppings") of philosophies/facts on religion and rather God exists. I'd go so far to say even Jesus has chuckled with the man. Carlin suffered three heart attacks prior to his death, Outside the black humor he shares with his fellow Atheists I didn't see happy man. A man at peace with his life or what he believed even though he seemed content with it he wasn't at peace with it. Neither are the others I know. I am a spiritual person, not a religious person. Religion confuses me and contradicts itself. God does neither, I don't have the answers for why God allows death, takes people away from us, allows bad things to happen to us. I do not understand it.... but I accept it. Accepting that u don't understand and don't need to can make all the difference in rather you are blessed or cursed, happy or miserable in life.
So please, for the sake of argument show me One happy Atheist. Will you please step forward? The one that doesn't have a bad heart, still hating his father for walking out when he was a kid, walks around with a dark cloud over his head even though people find your black humor entertaining, your laughter isn't even the source of joy. By the way, I found this site, it's called Happy Atheist Forum, when I read the site I didn't think the person was happy. I saw ignorant bliss:http://www.happyatheistforum.com/viewtopic.php?t=791

Advocates or Antagonists?

Being
blessed with perception and cursed with analyzing shit to death, I
couldn't help but notice how on point some of my observations and
analysis are. Is it just me (God forbid), or does anyone else seem to
be seeing how those who represent and favor a certain cause, thing or
person(s) seem to lose focus on that which they are standing up for?
Seem to be losing their fucking minds in the process of? Is the thing
that drives you the very thing that will drive your ass crazy? Do you
think you're so slick in your game/motive to entertain that you forget
who you are and what you were doing in the first place?! Is the real
enemy out to get you so tough that he frames you and put the weapon of
destruction in your hand while you sleep to make you look like you
can't be trusted? Make you look like a fake... or are you really a
fake?


Isn't that like saying, "Say no to drugs" and smoking crack your
damn self?! Like Saying "Big is beautiful" and then starve yourself
skinny (Mo'Nique)? "Thou shall not commit adultery and fornication" and
get caught in the whore house with a dick up your ass and yours in
somebody's mouth(various preachers and senators)? "I love sister and
respect them, they deserve better", then go out and fuck over and
betray good intentioned females? I'm under oath to preserve life" and
let a man die cuz he has no insurance?
I've seen a lot of "die hard" advocates self destruct and worst than
that, let many people down and disappoint them. That's why we need to
have enough hope and faith within ourselves cuz most of your motivation
and edification is coming from a false source wisdom, preciseness and
experience. Stop letting waka flockas (motherfuckers) blow smoke up
your ass! I read a scripture in the bible where a man says God told him
to "Wait and see, watch and learn"! You better say that! Advocacy is
usually false advertising at it's best practiced in the most vital and
fragile aspects of humanity.


The good news is, they usually fuck
themselves harder than they fucked you! I got to thinking hard on this
when I heard some of the responses to Mo'Nique's Golden Globe speech.
Now even though it was a beautiful speech, she lost the devotion and
ability to hear from her followers. WHY?!!! She CHANGED on their asses!
So they didn't HEAR her speech they only SAW this heifer getting
skinnier and skinnier before their eyes that USE to rep Big sisters!
The only one's who heard her speak were the ones who didn't buy that
"I'm happy the way I am" speech she was selling before. If it's so
beautiful and you love yourself in that body, why are you running from
it? More importantly, what's running you AWAY from that which you had
such strong convictions about? Every body selling something but what do
you buy and why? Most people are selling it not because they believe in
it or actually use or practice it but because they can benefit from it
and you believing the hype. Practice what you preach!


Yeah I know
nothing is guaranteed, that's why I put all my faith in me , God and
what Dee knows! I'm a woman of my word, keeper of my own damn thoughts,
beliefs and convictions. I know I wouldn't be selling nobody out more
than I'd be selling myself out. Stand up for yourself and what you
believe in, don't waiver for another flavor cuz somebody that looked up
to you and had respect for you will be disgusted with you. No not them
, the image you see staring back at you in the mirror!
SMH it never fails, they will slip up and show you who they really are
every time. I can't say it enough... keep it real!

The Good Son:Evil Has Many Faces

Damn, that's all I could say when a relative still living in Highland Park where I grew up called me and told me to click on the news. I mean it's sad enough that the man killed his own son, haven't seen anything this horrific since the late Marvin Gaye was taking from us at the hands of his own father. That was less horrific for the fact Marvin was a full grown man said to be attacking his elderly father, but still ya know?! *sighs* But this?! According to the Aunt, dude had already fucked his son up for whatever he had done/said. She said he had knots all over his head like those Tommy Hearns gave Martin( Martin Lawrence). To escort the boy out in public naked,( he must have really lost it) to kill him in a field execution style?! This is his son and let's say the rumor(son was caught raping 3 year old sister) is true.... THAT is his little girl. A little girl who assumes her big brother will protect her and her father surely can. A father that is torn between protecting his baby girl against evil that happens to be his son. Remember the movie The Good Son? Did ol girl not let her biological son fall to his death in order to save the other child in her care? I'd like to think I would have beat his ass then have him arrested or put away in a mental institution. Hoping some day he would be well and try to help my baby girl get thru her ordeal. I'd like to think that I wouldn't play God in a situation like that. I only pray I never find myself in that position having been raped as a child myself. I'm just saying, people snap and as a result you have horrible mishaps. Clearly there are too many mofos walking around not on medication for their mental illnesses
Link to the story surrounding this post:
http://blog.al.com/spotnews/2009/11/post_222.html

Teasing Toughens? Is it ever constructive

So I've been thinking about what it means to be teased or being the teaser and rather it is ever harmless or helpful. Upon discussing this with a friend, I came to the conclusion that where teasing has hurt some, even destroyed.... it has helped me. I was teased most of my childhood, at home and at school. I was called everything, you name it from Lurch to flea bag, spooks,bucked tooth, blackie, ugly and many, many more.Don't get me wrong, at the time and during my early years it was torture and pure hell but the older I got the tougher I got without becoming like my offenders. I found myself becoming the hero and activist for bullied and teased kids in the hood. I also noticed with my growing confidence, that I could laugh with my teasers. This of course didn't happen til I was a teenager flunking my first semester of high school. I remember my Uncle Earl teasing me and calling me a dummy and telling me what each F(funky, foolish, feeble,etc.) stood for on my report card. At first I was laughing and then I started to realize that he might really believe I was a dummy. The thing is I knew I just didn't like going to school with kids I had nothing in common with. I guess part of me was avoiding conflict too. My Uncle also knew and was using a method I wasn't familiar with.... reverse psychology. He wasn't teasing me to hurt me , he was pushing the buttons that would make me fight back and prove him wrong. I turned all those F's into A's after that and he would tell me, "I knew you could do it". Now, there are kids that don't get it, who never come out fighting(mentally that is) when their backs are up against a wall. They end up forever scarred and crippled by bullies and teasers. Some even commit suicide. Some grow up and abuse their children and spouses.


There are also different types of teasing just are there are different personality types. So one can't be too careful when it comes to teasing individuals. With children teasing comes naturally but not consciously. Other than the fact they can sense when someone is shy, nervous or unsure of themselves, they really don't know what they're doing or why. With adults, it's usually them who have the inferiority complex and are trying to feel superior over their victims and their audience.When I tease I try to do it with love and consideration, it is never with malicious intent. I try to make a person realize there is a stronger person within and aim to bring him forth. That's why I have a philosophy that if you can laugh at yourself the world will laugh with you, but if you cry for yourself the world will still laugh at you. So why not laugh at yourself first? Then people will find the next best thing to do, respect you. I hate to see that so many people are destroyed and deeply affected by teasing so many years ago today. That they never got over it, never used it to find out who they were and what they needed to get to the next level in life.


It's a miserable place to be... the victim. Because it saids about you that your oppressor won even though he/she hated him/herself more than he hated you. That they have brought you into their realm of misery and despair for all eternity , be it in life or death. Remember, it's an even more miserable place to be the bully/teaser because they need something to feed off of. If you don't bite the bait, the fisherman doesn't eat that night ;)