The Catch and Release Syndrome

You ever watch men fish? The way they can wait quietly and patiently for hours for a bite? I've watched my Dad fish and the excitement on his face when he caught a big one is indescribable. Of course he'd have to take it home to show his boys saying stuff like " Would you look at this pretty motherfucker?!"Then he'd freeze it or scale it and fry it right away. Then there were times when they went together and they'd all catch one and admire it a few seconds and throw it back in. Thus is the same way subconciously or not (according to the comic here) they approach the pursuit of women. The chase and wait is more thrilling than the catch. Sometimes they need others to see what they've accomplished and sometimes nobody ever need know but them. During those catch and release sessions, I realized they even had compassion for their captive to set it free. Almost in a sense that they appreciated it's right to be free n happy and not feeling worthy or guilty. Rarely will a man do that with a woman though without taking something from her that she values first. I say we don't bite the bait, that we make them sweat and struggle to catch us, so that they will consume us with some pride and dignity and let us have ours too. "Nothing ventured , nothing gained" is the equivalent to "You don't appreciate a thing you didn't work hard for like a thing you did."

Criticizing True Parenting and Leadership

http://www.orlandosentinel.com/news/local/breakingnews/os-school-bus-dad-girl-released-20100923,0,4512697.story

So the link of above is that regarding a young lady with cerebral palsy who had been bullied by student on a Seminole County school bus. Before I get into my observations and perspective on this, I want to first say God Bless the family and welcome the girl home from the hospital in hopes that she will not be forever scarred by her ordeal and the fact that her father was punished for a heroic and fatherly act.

I posted an article awhile ago,about bullies and teasing and when it goes too far. I've read a lot of articles revolving around this particular story, that has caused many adults to relive their childhood nightmares of being bullied by mean kids. These kids are not just mean, they aren't properly reared and parented. Although a lot of bullies are also victims unbeknownst to us, it only and often epidemically spreads this tragic condition in life rather than impedes it.

James Jones is the father of this young girl who just started middle school and happens to be handicapped. His daughter was being bullied on the school bus to the subjection of having a condom unwrapped and placed on her head. How vulgar and disrespectful is that?! Mr. Jones reported that he had in fact spoke to school officials about what was happening to his child. They didn't do anything! He took matters into his own hands by boarding the bus to confront the students, cursing at them and threatening the boy who placed a condom on his daughter's head. He was arrested and his daughter continued to be bullied. The fact that authorities disciplined the man instead of the students proves why it continued. Why they didn't learn anything from their actions and the consequences therein. There weren't any consequences for them!

We as a society criticize parents and their ability to lead and supervise delinquent minded children with tough love (okay it wasn't tough love but anger but necessary and valid) when it's necessary. Yet officials show no competence in their ability to prevent such incidents from occurring. They encourage us to participate in our child's schools, to help lead the children, they often accuse parents of using them as babysitters and not being involved and invested in their children educational and learning environment. Contradictory and hypocrisy at it's best! I myself have had to deal with similar situations being a mother of three. When my son was in fifth grade, he was dragged in the girl's bathroom by four young ladies. When a teacher saw him exiting, she jumped to the conclusion that my son RAPED the girls?! WTF???!!! It went on his record where he was told it would be a permanent crime on his record for life. The girls did not hesitate to confess that they PULLED my son in the bathroom because they thought he was cute,(which would could have very well been classified as sexual harassment from such harsh judgment as the one exercised against my son) they were ignored. My son was heartbroken as was I. I was more furious which led me to fight for my son and I mean by any means necessary and literally if push came to shove. The next morning I was stopped at the school entrance and told the charges were removed. You think that satisfied me? Hell no, they were gonna hear from me still. They were gonna know that it was not acceptable to drag my son's good name through the dirt like that and not even for a split second! They thought because they decided to do the right thing however late it was okay to call my son a rapist and not even apologize to him. Sometimes the children involved will have a conscious and remorse for their actions and it's the PARENTS AND OFFICIALS who don't.The only apology we received was from the young ladies involved. "It's over, we have taken care of it", is all the staff had to say. So I said "Fuck you very much!" and thanked the girls, who deserved recognition for taking responsibility for their actions .

Fifteen years later, I'm experiencing the same with my nephew. Who has
reported to me on more than one occasion that his teachers observe him being attacked and threatened and do nothing until he feels forced to defend himself. They then only acknowledge him as the wrong doer and reprimand him. I will hear the teacher out and if she so much as stutters I serve her ass up on a platter. I would much rather deal with an adult than a child. Which brings me to my point. These "mofos"(officials) don't want to deal with the parents because they figure if the child is that unruly and out of control the parents are ten times worst and they are scared. They'd rather take a chance on YOU and your decent character and well behaved child because you will be easier to deal with right? WRONG!! Make no mistake that good character and manners makes me a punk and that I won't get "loco" to protect my children and their rights! Go Mr. Jones, they ought to be kissing your black ass, giving you the key to the damn city and asking you to jump on board that damn bus as security!

Show Me a Happy Atheist and I'll Show You At Least Twenty Miserable Ones

Woke up with this for some reason, it was like a message in a dream, that said, "Show me a happy Atheist and I'll show u 20 miserable ones". Let it be known here that I don't have a personal dislike for Atheist, Scientology or any other religion, non-religion on the face of the earth. Well Jehovah Witnesses maybe, not because of their belief but because of their "over- bearing/ gotta shove this down your throat attitudes". I have been associates with all kinds and enjoy different perspectives and views, however, I never let it affect my belief. I rarely even allow myself to get into debates with opposing faiths/religions but, Atheist was something I had to understand and learn about. I wanted to know how & why they came to not believe in God. Most of these people once upon a time had a religion, they weren't born into Atheism or raised on it.

Fascinated I was on their many philosophies and dare I say, even facts. So they can make a lot of sense why religion as they call it, is bullshit. Going back to Christianity's violent roots, a religion based on love and forgiveness. That the bible has been written many times over at the hands of man.I've drawn a conclusion that thought the truth sets you free, facts can't make u miserable. They get no argument from me on these points but to say God doesn't exist? In all your facts you have no peace with self or life, whereas I have peace with both and it's due to my faith in God. If it's been proven that God doesn't exist through science and that the universe is responsible for aligning things in my favor then it doesn't explain the spiritual connection I have with an omnipresence I call God that is ever present in my life. So my faith is based on what I can't see but know exists while the Atheist does not believe anything he cannot see or trust anything he cannot see.

I asked for proof there is no God, they asked for proof there was. I said he's right here(pointing at heart) I can feel him. They say, "I can't see him, You being a good person is your own doing and choice. I don't give God credit for that" So U don't have to believe in God to be a good person, but how can you be a good person when you're miserable? And why are you miserable? Why do you have heart and other health problems(not saying believers don't but not constantly being attacked to the death of them either)vengeance, grudges, thick hatred for at least three people since you were a kid and just a doubtful cynic full of gloom? And dig this, they blame God for all the problems in their life health issues, loss of love ones, bad luck and so forth, but he doesn't even exist? Yet any good that befalls on them is from that of the universe. How can this be? How can you hate so much and say just because you don't believe in God you're still a good person? God aside,where is your PEACE? Why has the universe failed you on just having peace in your life? Did you not stare at the stars long enough, or acknowledge that scent that rain was coming last week?

One Atheist in particular that I have really enjoyed is George Carlin. I have no shame that Carlin has entertained, intrigued and caused me to think with his work("It's Bad For Ya",You Are All Diseased","Brain Droppings") of philosophies/facts on religion and rather God exists. I'd go so far to say even Jesus has chuckled with the man. Carlin suffered three heart attacks prior to his death, Outside the black humor he shares with his fellow Atheists I didn't see happy man. A man at peace with his life or what he believed even though he seemed content with it he wasn't at peace with it. Neither are the others I know. I am a spiritual person, not a religious person. Religion confuses me and contradicts itself. God does neither, I don't have the answers for why God allows death, takes people away from us, allows bad things to happen to us. I do not understand it.... but I accept it. Accepting that u don't understand and don't need to can make all the difference in rather you are blessed or cursed, happy or miserable in life.
So please, for the sake of argument show me One happy Atheist. Will you please step forward? The one that doesn't have a bad heart, still hating his father for walking out when he was a kid, walks around with a dark cloud over his head even though people find your black humor entertaining, your laughter isn't even the source of joy. By the way, I found this site, it's called Happy Atheist Forum, when I read the site I didn't think the person was happy. I saw ignorant bliss:http://www.happyatheistforum.com/viewtopic.php?t=791

Advocates or Antagonists?

Being
blessed with perception and cursed with analyzing shit to death, I
couldn't help but notice how on point some of my observations and
analysis are. Is it just me (God forbid), or does anyone else seem to
be seeing how those who represent and favor a certain cause, thing or
person(s) seem to lose focus on that which they are standing up for?
Seem to be losing their fucking minds in the process of? Is the thing
that drives you the very thing that will drive your ass crazy? Do you
think you're so slick in your game/motive to entertain that you forget
who you are and what you were doing in the first place?! Is the real
enemy out to get you so tough that he frames you and put the weapon of
destruction in your hand while you sleep to make you look like you
can't be trusted? Make you look like a fake... or are you really a
fake?


Isn't that like saying, "Say no to drugs" and smoking crack your
damn self?! Like Saying "Big is beautiful" and then starve yourself
skinny (Mo'Nique)? "Thou shall not commit adultery and fornication" and
get caught in the whore house with a dick up your ass and yours in
somebody's mouth(various preachers and senators)? "I love sister and
respect them, they deserve better", then go out and fuck over and
betray good intentioned females? I'm under oath to preserve life" and
let a man die cuz he has no insurance?
I've seen a lot of "die hard" advocates self destruct and worst than
that, let many people down and disappoint them. That's why we need to
have enough hope and faith within ourselves cuz most of your motivation
and edification is coming from a false source wisdom, preciseness and
experience. Stop letting waka flockas (motherfuckers) blow smoke up
your ass! I read a scripture in the bible where a man says God told him
to "Wait and see, watch and learn"! You better say that! Advocacy is
usually false advertising at it's best practiced in the most vital and
fragile aspects of humanity.


The good news is, they usually fuck
themselves harder than they fucked you! I got to thinking hard on this
when I heard some of the responses to Mo'Nique's Golden Globe speech.
Now even though it was a beautiful speech, she lost the devotion and
ability to hear from her followers. WHY?!!! She CHANGED on their asses!
So they didn't HEAR her speech they only SAW this heifer getting
skinnier and skinnier before their eyes that USE to rep Big sisters!
The only one's who heard her speak were the ones who didn't buy that
"I'm happy the way I am" speech she was selling before. If it's so
beautiful and you love yourself in that body, why are you running from
it? More importantly, what's running you AWAY from that which you had
such strong convictions about? Every body selling something but what do
you buy and why? Most people are selling it not because they believe in
it or actually use or practice it but because they can benefit from it
and you believing the hype. Practice what you preach!


Yeah I know
nothing is guaranteed, that's why I put all my faith in me , God and
what Dee knows! I'm a woman of my word, keeper of my own damn thoughts,
beliefs and convictions. I know I wouldn't be selling nobody out more
than I'd be selling myself out. Stand up for yourself and what you
believe in, don't waiver for another flavor cuz somebody that looked up
to you and had respect for you will be disgusted with you. No not them
, the image you see staring back at you in the mirror!
SMH it never fails, they will slip up and show you who they really are
every time. I can't say it enough... keep it real!